How to Get a Girl to Fall for You

Getting a girl to fall for you is an art, not a science. (If it were a science, it'd be rocket science.) What this means is that there's no one way to do it. However, there are some tricks that generally work for most. In order to get a girl to fall for you, you mainly need to get noticed, be sensitive, and start flirting.

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Part One of Three:
Starting Off

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Understand who girls are. Girls think differently from guys, so use it to your advantage. The things that you look for in a girl aren't necessarily what she looks for in a guy. Put yourself in her shoes and understand a few things about the fairer sex before you start your quest.
Many, but not all, girls care more about a guy's personality than they do his looks. Many, but not all, guys care more about a girl's looks than her personality.
Girls are just as shy about dating and love as guys are. Just because she doesn't seem so doesn't mean she isn't. Find ways to make that shyness go away.
Many, but not all, girls assume the worst about a guy until he proves her wrong. That's because most guys do treat them poorly. Especially in the beginning, find ways to convince her you're not like other guys.
Girls want guys who make them feel special. (Many girls grow up thinking they'll find Prince Charming.) Girls want guys who make them feel older, more mature.

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Find an excuse to get close to her. It doesn't have to be a good excuse; it just has to be an excuse, like "Hey, do you remember what homework was?" or "Hey, do you want to crack this problem together?" Once you've broken the ice, you can start to become her friend. Again, it doesn't really matter how you break the ice as long as you don't threaten her and you don't come off as really cocky. If you embarrass yourself, don't worry — she just might think that's cute.

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Slowly become friends. For girls, trust is a pretty big thing. She'll trust you more — and be willing to take that next step — if she knows who you are and she likes that person. A couple of things to remember as you begin to establish a friendship with her:
Take things slowly and casually. Don't smother her with your presence right away. If she begs off hanging out, for whatever reason, be casual about it. Casual makes you seem cool, and cool helps you stay mysterious.
Invite her along on social occasions. When you're at the skate park with your friends, invite her along. If you're going to a party, let her know. If she likes you as a friend (and possibly more), she'll return the favor.
Make an effort to be friends with her friends. Don't flirt with them; be friendly with them. Her friends are her supporting cast. Treat them well and they'll vouch for you.

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Be polite and gentlemanly. Remember when we said that girls assume a guy just wants to get into her pants? Well, don't be that guy! Being polite and gentlemanly will help assure her that you are different, and that you respect her as a person. This will work especially if she is a romantic.
Offer to hold her books while she is opening her locker. Open doors, and keep doors open, for her. Say "please" and "thank you" with a smile on your face, even if you feel horribly old-fashioned. These things do make a difference.

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Have your own life apart from her. Don't latch onto her like a barnacle. Even if you're a friend and a gentleman, she probably doesn't want you there 24/7, attending to her every need, turning into her shadow. It's not going to get you very far.
Take some time to do your own thing. That way, you'll have a little bit of mystery, and you'll be able to talk about fun and interesting things you've done in her absence.
Girls are attracted to guys who are independent. Try to cultivate that a little bit, even as you court her. Being independent means doing your own thing, having different groups of friends, and thinking for yourself.
At least once, beg off when she invites you to something. She will never realize how much she misses you if you are always around!

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Pay more attention to what you look/smell like. For goodness' sake, groom yourself. Girls care about guys who can take care of themselves. Personal hygiene just happens to be a part of that. Wash your hair once it gets greasy, shower daily, use deodorant, shave if you're that age, and look your best using the clothes that you've got.

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Avoid the early friendship mistakes. Now, these mistakes aren't always relationship-ending, but they tend to be mistakes. If you can, try to avoid them:
Don't be immature, perverted, or gross. That includes saying and doing things. Girls want you to be more mature than your age, not less.
Don't press her for really personal information in the beginning. Don't make her share more than she feels comfortable telling you.
Don't go out of your way to impress her. Impress her by doing what you do well, which will make you confident. Trying really hard to impress her makes you seem cocky.
Don't get caught flirting with other girls. Being around other girls is good; flirting with other girls is bad. You may only get one chance to convince her you like her.