Iara Oshiomhole Covers Vanguard Allure In Style

Edo State first lady, Iara Oshiomhole is a stunning beauty on the cover of this week’s Personality Issue of Vanguard Allure.

In an insightful chat with Allure’s Editor Remi Diagbare , the wife of former NLC boss, Adams Oshiomhole dished on her life, philanthropic activities and caring for those in her state.

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Meet The 11-Year-Old Boy With stone body.

         

        Ramesh looked like any other bouncing baby boy when his mother Nar Kumari held her little boy for the first time. Just 15 days after she got him home, her son’s skin began to peel and was replaced by thick, black scales which have been slowly and painfully entombing him since.

His rare skin disorder is slowly turning him into a stone statue has robbed the 11-year-old of his ability to walk and even talk.

And for a long time it seemed there was no hope for a cure, leaving his desperate mother and her husband Nanda helpless to do anything besides watch him slowly turn to stone.

Nanda told MailOnline: ‘His skin started peeling off 15 days after he was born and then new skin began to grow very thick.

‘It hardened and turned black, we had no idea what to do about it. No one helped us.’

In fact, doctors in Baglung, the remote Nepalese region where the family live, seemed bemused by what they told them was a ‘fungal infection’ and said they couldn’t help.

All the while, Ramesh was getting worse.

‘By this fifth birthday he began to say his body was in pain and he couldn’t walk,’ said Nanda. ‘He’s never really been able to explain anything to us either.

‘He is only able to inform us when he’s hungry or wants to use the toilet. He used to sit and cry but we didn’t know what was hurting him or how to help him.

‘Any young child would see him and run away crying. It was hard for him and us to watch.’

By age six, the condition had left him unable to walk, and so he has never been to school. Even when his parents did discover the cause, an extremely rare condition called Ichthyosis, they were unable to do anything to ease their son’s suffering.

We did not have enough money and had no choice than to keep Ramesh home and do our best.’
But then help came from British singer Joss Stone.

Ramesh’s luck changed when a video of him struggling was shared on social media – and it was spotted by the acclaimed Nepalese singer Sanjay Shrestha, who happened to be helping Stone organise a concert.

He is now receiving treatment at the Kathmandu Medical College, where doctors remain hopeful they may be able to make his life easier.                                                                                      

Niger State Ghosts Schools

So there are also ghosts schools too. No fewer than 22 ghost primary schools and 24 head teachers have been discovered in the Chanchaga Local Government Area of Niger State. Investigations showed that between the ghost schools and head teachers, a whopping N76m was being lost monthly.

The discovery of the ‘ghosts’ followed a staff audit ordered by the Chairman of the local government, Alhaji Inuwa Adamu Fuka.

It was discovered that in addition to the ‘ghost’ schools and head teachers, some senior staff of the local government, who either had been transferred to the state’s Ministry for Local Government or were retired, still drew their salaries, at least, up to the end of April this year.

Some of the ‘ghosts’ schools were located in Minna, the capital of the state. Investigation revealed the names of the schools as Kurmin Sarki Primary School (located in the low cost area of the  state capital), Angwan Gaya Model Primary School, Awal Ibrahim Primary School, Bagudu Waziri Primary School, as well as Rabah Kede Primary School.

Part of the shocking discovery, according to the investigation, is a level 5 staff of the local government that was drawing the salary of a level 15 officer. Also, an employee who withdrew his appointment to join the Federal Government parastatal still had his name on the pay roll and was collecting his salary monthly until April.

According to the findings, the Chairman of the local government, Alhaji Adamu Fuka, had directed that all the ‘ghost’ schools and head teachers’ salaries should be stopped, until the audit team had completed its assignment and submitted a report to the council.

In addition, it was gathered that Fuka had asked that those involved in the scam should be identified and their names submitted to his office.

“You are to identify and submit the names of scheduled officers responsible for the payment as from January 2010 to April 2016,” he said.

When contacted, Fuka neither denied not confirm the story. He however said, “I have heard what you are talking about. Wait for a report to be submitted to me to enable me say something on the issue.”

Governor Abubakar Sani Bello had recently directed all local government chairmen in the state to carry out a staff audit to identify genuine workers. He said this would  bring down the huge salary bills paid by the local government areas.

New Chieftaincy title in Rivers State,Joseph & Adaeze Yobo

Joseph and Adaeze Yobo were conferred yesterday with Chieftaincy title - The Mene Aborlo 1 and Waamene Aborlo 1 of Ogoni, Rivers State. See more photos shared after the cut....

 

 

what is life turning into?

Pregnant woman who Rivers State soldiers allegedly fired durin rivers election

A pregnant woman identified as Mrs Nzugha was reportedly hit by bullets fired by the military during the March 19 rerun election in Nonwa, in Tai Local Government Area of Rivers State. Below are more of her photos and details shared by (Rivers Rerun) on Facebook

Justice for Citizen Nzugha

"On the morning of Saturday March 19, 2016, men of the Nigerian Army were said to snatch ‪#‎riversrerun‬ election materials at Nonwa in Tai Local Government Area of Rivers State in a bid to doctor election results in favour of the APC.

They were met with stiff resistance by the people of Tai. To scare the resilient voters and have their way, the army shot sporadically in the air with reckless abandon.

A pregnant woman, N'baby Nzugha, was on her way to her polling unit to exercise her franchise. She was one of those caught by the bullets of the military.

No Nigerian citizen deserves to be maltreated or even killed for exercising constitutionally guaranteed rights. We want ‪#‎JusticeForCitizenNzugha‬. It could have been anyone of us.

Please share and draw the world's attention to the drifting pace of Nigeria's democracy"

 

Funny nollywood actor Mr Ibu and wife welcome son

Comic actor, John Okafor aka Mr Ibu and his wife have welcomed a son. He shared the photo of the boy on his Instagram page and wrote "My new baby boy has arrived, God take all d glory". Congrats to them!

Lassa fever: Stay alert

FCT Minister, Muhammad Bello has charged medical and health workers to remain on red alert to nip in the bud any suspected case of Lassa Fever.

Bello gave the directive in a statement signed by his Chief Press Secretary, Mr Hamzat Sule, on Wednesday in Abuja.

The statement said that the directive was a follow up to earlier tips on how to prevent the spread of the disease.It recalled that the lone case in the territory was that of a man on transit.

“But the FCT Administration will not leave anything to chance on the lives and well-being of all the residents and visitors, as this is paramount to this administration.’’

The minister, therefore, directed the FCT Disease Control and Disease Surveillance Department to endeavour to be on top of any eventuality that might arise.

The statement said that he also instructed the Notification Officers in all the six area councils to be on high alert by stepping up disease surveillance activities within their various localities, especially at the border communities. He emphasised that all the nooks and crannies of the 8,000 sq. kms. of the territory must be well policed, to deal with any case at a very short notice.

“The Heads of Health Departments in the area councils are equally directed to further step up sensitisation activities in the communities – markets, motor parks, churches and mosques,” the statement added.

Bello further urged the health workers to be proactive in their approach in order to avoid the unfortunate incident that led to the death of the transit victim.

The statement said that the minister also advised residents of the territory to imbibe the habit of a clean environment, to ward off all rodents from their houses.

“Hygienic practices will go a long way in curbing not only Lassa Fever but also other diseases associated with dirty environment,” the statement said.(NAN)

7 Reasons Why People people close eyes while kissing

Why do people close their eyes when they kiss?

Who invented this custom? When you don’t keep your eyes closed you’re violating a sacred principle. It’s like eating cereal with your hands when nobody’s around. Nobody sees you, but you still feel weird and like you’re violating the natural order.

If you need a reason to keep your eyes closed while kissing, here are seven top reasons, according to a poll.

Reasons why people kiss with their eyes closed:

1. You wouldn’t want to see what you look like while kissing, so neither would your partner;

2. Your brain can’t make your tongue swirl around if your eyes are moving at the same time. It’s the same principle as trying to pat your head while using your other hand to go in circles over your belly;

3. It’s weird enough to kiss with your eyes open, but even weirder to make moaning sounds;

4. It’s bad for your eyeballs to look that close at anything;

5. For females, it ruins everything if you’re fantasizing about Brad Pitt when you’re actually staring at something closer to Lalasticlal.a;

6. For males, if you’re kissing in the middle of intercourse, with your eyes closed it’s easier to imagine Soccer;

7. With your eyes open, your lover’s nose looks bigger than Aso Rock.

Mum gives birth to son in a car park

Little Kai Taafe made his grand entrance in the back of a Volkswagen Golf outside a hospital in Ireland. His mum - 26-year-old Elaine - gave birth to the 7lb baby as maternity staff raced toward the make shift deliver room last Wednesday morning, reports the Irish Mirror .

Elaine’s father Harry, who is from O’Hanlon Park in the town said: “Elaine lives around the corner and came over to us in pain after 6am.


Elaine Taaffe with her Dad Harry who helped her

“She told my wife Maria her labour pains were coming quickly so I jumped out of bed and put Elaine in the car, put the hazard lights on and drove in the wind and rain to Drogheda at 6.30am.

“Just outside Monasterboice, I saw an ambulance in front and flashed my lights at it but it was probably carrying another passenger and didn’t know what was going on.

“I overtook it and then felt more comfortable knowing there was an ambulance crew behind me, if need be. “I didn’t even wait for the man at the hospital gates to put up the barrier, I just drove around it and parked up.

"The baby’s head was just out at the time so I just ran in to get help.

“Elaine had three massive labour pains on the way up in the car and on the fourth, she gave birth just as the medical staff arrived at 6.55am. “Elaine was giving birth in the car with the two doors wide open and the wind howling and the rain lashing around us.

“People were asking was she going to call the baby Frank on account of him being born in the middle of it.

“I have to commend the staff because as soon as they knew what was happening, they were straight out and knew exactly what to do.”

Ironically, it’s not the first quick delivery Harry has experienced.
He added:

“My daughter Orla nearly gave birth in the lift at the hospital last year and 21 years ago, my son Shane was born quickly.

"We left home at 6.20am and just made it to the Louth County Hospital where he was born just 20 minutes later.”

Elaine and Kai are back home in Dundalk now where Kai’s big brother Reece, four, is proving a huge help to his mum.

Why we have sex

Sex, since the history of man or human evolution has gone through several changes, even in terms of definition and form and the individuals engaging in it. Once upon a time, sex was thought to be primarily for reproductive reasons, then for the relief of sexual tension and later, for the sexual pleasure. Right from the explosive documentation of the Kama Sutra, various studies and experiences have been carried out by persons and institutions to unravel the mystery of human sexology and why, besides procreation, sex is important to mortal men and women.

From the researches of Alfred Kinsey who is regarded as the father of sexology in the 40s and 50s to Masters and Johnson’s famous researches on orgasms of the 60s and 70s, sex has become a subject of great interest to all.

Now, a research conducted by psychologists Cindy Meston and David Buss on why women have sex which is published in the Archives of Sexual Behaviour, the duo in their new book of the same title, have listed 237 reasons why women have sex with their partners.

Ranging from the mundane desires to experience physical pleasure; to the vengeful intentions of getting back at a cheating partner, the spiritual attempt to get closer to God, or the altruistic gesture of wanting a partner to feel good about themselves, Meston and Buss concluded that the motives for engaging in sexual intercourse may be larger in number than what most people think and psychologically complex in nature too.

Some of the reasons listed are quite glaring and practiced across societies and persons at various times, regardless of their marital status too. In fact, marital sex as well as long term relationships tend to be more complex than those in newer or non-commitment relationships. Just as a married woman may have a legion of reasons for not wanting to have sex, she just might have another gazillion on why she must have sex.

The most important and common reason being “duty sex”. Once married, it is assumed that providing sexual pleasure to her partner is a given. She must fulfill her own side of the bargain to keep the union. To some other women, it is the price for the status and benefits. In this case, it has nothing to do with her own sexual pleasures or preference and more about submission, ditto the man. Many women also believe that the more sex they have with their partners, the less chances he is likely to stray.

Women assume that the more sex he gets with them, the less chances he is likely to think about sex outside the box, much less look for it. While good communication channel and a strong sexual connection may have been identified as important keys to a good relationship, hardly has having sex with a partner on demand been known to keep a person from straying into the thighs of another individual. Some women also believe that sex and children are the perfect ways to keep their men.

Women dubiously believe that the more children and responsibility they throw at their husbands, the less likely they are to walk away from them. So, where they have agreed on two children, these women, on their own volition, manipulate or “accidentally” go on to have more children. This hardly works in some cases. You can only keep a man down for as long as he wants to stay down. I intend to write more about this complex situation in subsequent editions. Let’s just go through some reasons I found quite interesting in this book which I have practical examples for:

Pity sex: Women may sometimes give in to sex for this simple reason, after all, we are women with maternal instincts. Some of the women in the book confessed to have had sex with men just because they felt sorry for them. According to one, she had been dating a guy over two years and he had been pleading with her all through. One day, she said she took pity on him and agreed. However, he was out of the door as soon as he could pull his pants up. A similar scenario happened to one of the young girls I counsel.

She’d been dating the guy for quite some time, and though she’d told him she was no virgin, she’d however decided to go celibate until she was married. The guy had gone on to systematically work on her emotions and soon, broke her down. She said the day she agreed to have sex with him, he had prostrated flat on his stomach, swearing heaven on earth. What kind of desperation is that? However, what happened after the act, almost robbed her of her education as she did not want to return to school.

She said immediately it was over, he jumped up and punched the air with his fist, asking if that was all that she had to offer and that he’d had better lays. He went on to tell her that he had only been acting out a script and never loved her. In fact, he and a couple of guys already placed a bet on her and though she had tried, he had won eventually. To make matters worse, he had ordered her out of his room.

She said she ran away from school and several days was even scared to pick her calls or check the social media as she feared that he had recorded their activities and might post it on the internet. Eventually, he had come to apologise but the damage had already been done. Sex for pity’s sake almost always turn out to leave a sour taste in the mouth as you can never be sure of the other person’s motives.

Have sex because you want to and not because you feel pressured to, or are sorry for the guy. That way, should things go sour, you can hold your head up, look the a- – in the eye and say “f..k off, you fall me, I fall you, no big deal!” Marriage sex: This is very different from marital sex. This is simply sex to negotiate for marriage. Some ladies believe that having sex with a guy will provide them the opportunity to show the guys and convince them that they are good and suitable for each other.

To add insult to injury, some of these ladies are prepared to play little housewife roles, they go over to the guy’s apartments for chores and even wash their dirty under wears and clothes. Some even cook with their own money to convince the guys that they can support the union financially too. My little sister gave me a gist about one of her friends who played house help for someone she called her fiancé for almost four years, refusing to heed everyone’s warning.

As suspected, her generosity and selfless acts did not succeed at the negotiation table as the guy sprung the most unexpected surprise. He married the daughter of his neighbour and co-tenant, the little girl that had been calling his fiancée “aunty” and often came to the apartment to play with her when the guy was not around! My bet is that she had even run errands between the lovers and had benefited from the older lady’s generosity too. Eventually, they both betrayed her, her goodness did not help, neither her assumed sexual prowess.

Trade by barter sex: Just as the phrase imply, this is when you use what you have to get what you want. The first thing that comes to mind here is prostitution, that age old trade of using the body for financial benefits. The activities of the prostitution ring are a multimillion dollar investment worldwide with tentacles in drugs, violent crimes, human trafficking and many other vices.

Interestingly, the average prostitute in many climes no longer enjoys the liberty of dealing her wares as a one man (sorry, woman) enterprise or sole trader to any interested client today.

To carry on business as usual, she needs protection and this she invests in with the proceeds from her business as well as sex. Again, a drug addict or junkie will exchange sex for drugs naturally and when caught in a tight corner, many women have been known to exchange sex for their freedom.

Negotiation sex: If the above seem rather on the dark side, let’s bring it down to base. Many things have been written about the power of the female anatomy. I mean,bottom power! Many men, both high and lowly have been known to succumb to the aura of this potent natural endowment. Many women have perfected the art of using their gifts from mother nature to get what they want through intense manipulation and negotiation. Sex is thus used by women to curry favour, to get jobs, promotions, or even maintain status as the case might be.

A friend once told me the trick she uses to get anything she wants from her boyfriend. According to her, he is one of those shy types who can hardly express his thoughts or views on issues, let alone approach women. So, he considers himself very lucky to have found her and perhaps cannot trade the opportunity of the occasional sex for anything. (not yet, at least).

So, for her, most times, She engages in sex to get him to do stuff for her. Her crude method even involves stopping in the middle of the act to get him to agree to her demand. And the poor thing just crumbles like a pack of cards.

Revenge sex: This is common with women who have been hurt and who want to get their pound of flesh. Often, a wife might cheat on her cheating husband just to get back at him and probably make him feel the way she felt. It could also be to get back at a partner who has neglected them. Again, she might have sex to reassure herself that she is still pretty and desirable by men after she’d been jilted by one, or to simply walk out of an existing relationship.

Revenge sex may sometimes take a bizarre twist, depending on motive and individual. While working on my book, Youth, Sex and Wellbeing, I spoke with a lady who confessed to having slept with a boyfriend she was no longer interested in and infected him with a STI. According to her, she’d gone to visit on his insistence, thinking that she would seize the opportunity to inform him of her slight indisposition. But to her annoyance, she caught him escorting another girl off.

And though she’d always known she was not his only partner, seeing him that day was just too much and she made up her mind to teach him a lesson. A couple of years back, a National Newspaper published the self confession of a university undergraduate who at the brink of death, afflicted with full blown AIDS, claimed she’d purposely passed on the HIV virus to over 400 men. Her grouse was not with these men but the man who’d given her the virus and she wanted to take her revenge out on the world.

If the men thought she was an easy lay at the time, they definitely would have a change of heart after reading her confession! Cindy Meston and David Buss, aptly summarised the various motives in these words. “Every person brings their own individual history to any sexual situation. The reasons why they are having sex, the way they feel about the sex and the consequences of having sex are all very different across individuals no matter what gender they happen to be”. And that includes men too.